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When You Least Expect it -- Expect it!
USINFO | 2013-08-14 14:26
My name is Pam and I met my husband Sam 6 years ago in October. I was 27 years old and was at the age when I thought I would never get married. My grandmother, however, would tell me that when I least expected it I would meet the man I was looking for.
My grandmother's death came as a complete surprise. She was 75 but had not been sick a day in her life. She was rushed to the ER early one morning and died three weeks later in the Intensive Care Unit. It was a complete surprise and shock to the whole family.
When we went to the funeral home that my family has always used, there was a new Funeral Director that we had never met. His name was Sam and he was 57 years old (I was 27). The family had been up all night and we all looked terrible. When we (my father, mother, grandfather and me) went in to make the arrangements for my grandmother, I sat down at the table next to the funeral director. We hit it off wonderfully. He was funny, sincere, caring and empathetic all at the same time. He appeared to have the mannerisims that I was looking for in a man - expect for the age part.
We started dating seriously about 6 weeks after my grandmother died and dated for almost a year before we were married.
Sam has four children all older than I am! They are all very happy for their father - for he has found his life partner - and they know it was not their mother. We are both college educated and have a great sense of humor. The major differences in our marriage are the age factor, personality types and the way we handle confrontational issues.
I believe that our differences have had a very positive impact on our relationship. I have learned to become more patient as a result of being married to Sam and Sam has learned new ways of doing everything. He has discovered new and different types of foods that he had never had before. I have introduced him to the computer age! Seeing as Sam came from a very large family (11 siblings) he has introduced me to a large and stable family life - something I never had growing up.
The only problem that our relationship has had has been from my parents. They do not seem to understand that I just cannot be with someone my own age (I am now 33 and Sam will be 63 in October). However, the rest of my family - the ones that really know me - know that Sam is the one for me. I am happier right now than I have ever been in my entire life and I credit that to Sam.
When we go out and strangers see us holding hands or kissing they just stop and stare. There have been many times when couples seated next to us in a resturant will start whispering about us. At first it bothered me and I would be so bold as to go up to their table and ask them if they have a problem sitting next to my husband and me. Now I either do not hear what people are saying or I just ignore them. I am much more comfortable with our age difference and I feel that it is an asset to our relationship. I consider myself a very old 33 year old and Sam a very young 63 year old. I tell people that when you put Sam and Pam together and average their ages you get SPAM at 45 years of age! We both feel like our actual age should be around the mid-forties.
I have indeed found my life partner and it was just as my grandmother said - When I least expected，expect it!
My grandmother's death came as a complete surprise. She was 75 but had not been sick a day in her life. She was rushed to the ER early one morning and died three weeks later in the Intensive Care Unit. It was a complete surprise and shock to the whole family.
When we went to the funeral home that my family has always used, there was a new Funeral Director that we had never met. His name was Sam and he was 57 years old (I was 27). The family had been up all night and we all looked terrible. When we (my father, mother, grandfather and me) went in to make the arrangements for my grandmother, I sat down at the table next to the funeral director. We hit it off wonderfully. He was funny, sincere, caring and empathetic all at the same time. He appeared to have the mannerisims that I was looking for in a man - expect for the age part.
We started dating seriously about 6 weeks after my grandmother died and dated for almost a year before we were married.
Sam has four children all older than I am! They are all very happy for their father - for he has found his life partner - and they know it was not their mother. We are both college educated and have a great sense of humor. The major differences in our marriage are the age factor, personality types and the way we handle confrontational issues.
I believe that our differences have had a very positive impact on our relationship. I have learned to become more patient as a result of being married to Sam and Sam has learned new ways of doing everything. He has discovered new and different types of foods that he had never had before. I have introduced him to the computer age! Seeing as Sam came from a very large family (11 siblings) he has introduced me to a large and stable family life - something I never had growing up.
The only problem that our relationship has had has been from my parents. They do not seem to understand that I just cannot be with someone my own age (I am now 33 and Sam will be 63 in October). However, the rest of my family - the ones that really know me - know that Sam is the one for me. I am happier right now than I have ever been in my entire life and I credit that to Sam.
When we go out and strangers see us holding hands or kissing they just stop and stare. There have been many times when couples seated next to us in a resturant will start whispering about us. At first it bothered me and I would be so bold as to go up to their table and ask them if they have a problem sitting next to my husband and me. Now I either do not hear what people are saying or I just ignore them. I am much more comfortable with our age difference and I feel that it is an asset to our relationship. I consider myself a very old 33 year old and Sam a very young 63 year old. I tell people that when you put Sam and Pam together and average their ages you get SPAM at 45 years of age! We both feel like our actual age should be around the mid-forties.
I have indeed found my life partner and it was just as my grandmother said - When I least expected，expect it!
